What if?

What if I told you that you aren't broken?  That your diagnosis was based on speculation and "society's" need to label what it doesn't understand, or what doesn't fit into the box? Are there major neurosis out there that cause people to suffer mentally and physically?  I'm sure there are, but I'm not talking about … Continue reading What if?

Random Bits & Pieces, again

July Camp NaNo I was off to a pretty decent start - got a few words or so ahead of the game then didn't do a lick of writing these past two (or is it 3?) days. Sigh. So much going on right now (as you'll see below) that I'm living in "overwhelmed" mode. I … Continue reading Random Bits & Pieces, again

24 Things Women Over 30 Should Wear — quotidiandose

Thanks to Ellie over at Quotidiandose for reblogging so I was sure to see it, and Warning-Curves Ahead (whom I am now excited to follow on WordPress) for the original post.  This is so on time. Originally posted on warning:curves ahead: This morning, as I was perusing my Facebook timeline, I happened upon an article that a lovely … Continue reading 24 Things Women Over 30 Should Wear — quotidiandose

It’s That Time Once Again, The Beauty of a Woman Blog Fest

Use the link below to enjoy this year's Beauty of a Woman BlogFest over at Girl Boner, by August McLaughlin. I didn't participate as a writer this year, but am definitely enjoying the many posts I'm reading. Always a good time learning about what makes women beautiful inside and out!   Welcome to the Beauty … Continue reading It’s That Time Once Again, The Beauty of a Woman Blog Fest

Let the training montage begin!

That's right guys, the first level of my transformation into super agent Onyx Butterfly has been booked. I signed up for 12 sessions with a personal trainer who just happens to work exclusively with clients over 40 years of age. It was kismet. I had just decided to invest the money in a personal trainer … Continue reading Let the training montage begin!

Comfort Zone – the Continuing Exploration Beyond

First tentative steps beyond the borders of my Comfort Zone: DIY Program & Creator's Guild launch. - the program was by no means ready but I "launched" it anyway. Long live my Bass-Ackwards approach to life and living, especially when it comes to business. Just have to be sure to temper it with some good sense … Continue reading Comfort Zone – the Continuing Exploration Beyond

By Day…

I'm a mild mannered human-BEing busy doing what needs to be done. You know, the mundane, day-to-day minutiae that makes up an ordinary life. But by night (and by night I mean as soon as I leave my day job), I'm a fanged super operative, code name: Onyx Butterfly (don't worry, I won't have to … Continue reading By Day…

Embraceable – A Quick Chat with August McLaughlin

Valentine's Day. You're told that much like Christmas, the best way to show your love is to shower your special someone with gifts and attention. That's all well and good, but when was the last time you were told to do that for yourself? Women especially are taught how to show others love, but there's … Continue reading Embraceable – A Quick Chat with August McLaughlin

What You Accomplish Every Day Is to Your Self-Esteem, What Water Is to Your Life – Sira Masetti

Having goals is something ordinary, while committing to the right ones and being able to achieve them is what shows one's real value. In other words, if we dedicate our time and our efforts to whatever we like, we have far too many objectives to reach. And guess what happens next? We are not able … Continue reading What You Accomplish Every Day Is to Your Self-Esteem, What Water Is to Your Life – Sira Masetti

How To Develop A Healthy Relationship (With Yourself)

James Michael Sama


You may wonder where this topic came from, considering I typically write about dating and relationships. But, I also write about happiness and success – two things which are typically intertwined with how you perceive yourself. Furthermore, the most important relationship you will ever have, is with yourself. If that one isn’t healthy, none of your others will be.

Before we can be confident in a relationship, we need to be confident in ourselves. For many of us, this means overcoming the social stigmas of beauty and learning to eventually accept ourselves for who we are, whether or not we resemble the airbrushed magazine cover models. I have taken my own journey along this path which I wanted to share with you.

I have never been ‘thin,’ in any aspect of the word. I was always a little shorter, a little stockier, and grew up in a household where there…

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